The pink dilemna..:D
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The Pink Chaddi Campaign.Who is not aware of it by now?And by’ who’, I mean the so called(BY some people) ‘elite’ women and men of India,the ones living in the cities,the ones who are loose and go to the pub,the ones who are ‘supposedly’ ‘disconnected’ with the rest of India.Why this emphasis on elite and other terms?
Well….because some sides would have us believe that this campaign does not fight for ALL the women of India.That it is merely a very undignified,’out to grab eyeballs’ kind of a campaign ,one which only seeks media attention.That it will further widen the rift between the rural and the urban.
(Can I also tell you how far some people will go in their absurdity and protest to the pink chaddi campaign? Some people have started a pink condom campaign, but becasue they are so pitiable I will not provide a link for them:D .)THIS WHOLE POST IS FOR THOSE WHO ARE BEHIND THIS STUPID AND NEED I SAY PATHETIC ‘campaign’.The pink condom guys can go take a hike!
This is what those pathetic minds say,”The Pink Chaddi walas claim themselves to be pubgoing, loose and forward – a condom will help them maintain being that.’
LOL!!ever heard of sarcasm buddy?
First let me say that whoever came up with the name of the pink chaddi campaign and the logo was a brilliant mind.A logo that is catchy,grabs attention and is instantly recognizable…what more could a campaign want?And so this has been achieved.The campaign is all over the net,all over TV,splashed in major dailies of India.So far so good.The women and men associated with the campaign have been quite successful till now(and one hopes will be further too)
A blogger friend Alankrita says ”Is the underlying idea that real Indian women neither go to pubs, nor wear panties, nor protest the same way? Or do they have other issues. Because in this “panties protest” I only see a taking on the patriarchy- something which impacts every section of society.I agree that through Facebook and other networking sites, this campaign has become exponentially viral, and has got a lot of media coverage. But indeed, is the idea behind it elite? Or have the elite stopped being Indian citizens? ”
She hits the bullseye the very first time!
How is sending Chaddies or underwear undignified?Are women being told ,in a very subtle manner of course that this is not the way to go?Are we again being told to ,nay almost dictated to , to ‘ do’ things in a particular way? Who is telling us?What about us?Are we the so called’ elite’ women not a part of India?Women who were in a pub were assaulted right?SO women who frequent those pubs are responding.Where is the confusion here?
The idea of sending underwear that too pink ones as Alankrita says,are all about humiliation.”Panties are a piece of underwear. Pink ones decidedly feminine. And sending underwear to anyone is a protest.”
For some who ask whether rural women wear underwear,let me say simply this.The fact that rural women do not wear underwear is not a cause to be celebrated or thrown in our faces .In fact what a woman goes through in the absence of proper undergarments,and without sanitary pads is something only a woman can understand.
Tomorrow the argument will be given that everything from bras to panties to sanitary pads are not used by rural women and hence these are western or victorian and hence WE ,the supposedly elite western educated women are disconnected and living in a fool’s paradise.I am sorry,but my and OUR personal and collective goal is to make sure ,that rural women too get these ‘BASIC’ things in life.Undergarments are NEEDED.BRAS AND PANTIES ARE A BASIC REQUIREMENT OF LIFE FOR WOMEN.
I can only shake my head at the absurdity of it all .
Women in rural India do not wear this and hence women do not need this? ???
MY god THats absurd!!!
Give us a few moments with our rural sisters and we will show you how much they love this idea of undergarments and of sanitary pads.
Women in rural India do not wear all this quite simply because their comforts do not come to anyone’s mind.They are chattel to be cornered ,their skirts,ghagras whatever thrown up and used at will.
UNLESS you are a woman and know what we go through,please do not tell us what we whether in urban or rural India go through.A man is qualified to judge neither.
Also to call it panties ,instead of chaddies as the original campaign does, takes away something from the issue.It dilutes the point we seek to put across.IF you have to call it something,please call it lingerie….thats what we call it…panties are passe…Lingerie…doesnt get more phoren than that does it?:)Please call us as phoren as you want to.
Another blogger friend speaks very passionately on why the campaign is a good idea…Anrosh says,”The” battle of and for freedom never was and never will be a sensible or rational . It makes the most comfortable person in the most comfortable chair get up and get a gasp of air. ”
Absolutely true!HOw and why are WE expected to behave rationally when those who are the perpetrators are lunatics who seem to have escaped from an asylum?When their actions border on the insane?
Why are we being told ever so subtly to do things in a dignified manner?ARe we the upholders of izzat once more?Are we the moral guardians who will put India to shame by this action of ours?
Kaalikh potna as they say in hindi?
KYA BHARAT KE MUNH PAR KAALIKH PUT JAAYEGI?
Another argument wass that Muthalik and Co. will be rubbing their hands in glee and thinking lechorous thoughts.OH really!Thank you for letting us know.And here we were thinking the poor guy was a saint!
When The hoodlums were dragging out girls and beating them up and molesting them ,were pious thoughts going through their mind?Why should we now worry about what that B********* thinks ?
This is about us and what we think.]This is not our response keeping that scum’s feelings in mind or whether he may or may not think lechorous thoughts.
In a country where women are visually undressed and raped visually in everybus,in every public place,at every nukkad and chauraha,let me tell you that we dont give a damn about what Muhalik and Co think.We know.Trust me,NO ONE knows better than us .
Can I give you an example?.When in rural India, women send a bunch of ‘choodis'(bangles)to a man they detest, it is a symbolic protest.They are aware that bangles are not docile or feminine,they know that they, the women have strength unlike any man….and yet they send the choodis to the man to make him feel humiliated to make him feel inferior.Choodiyaan ,they symbolize the ultimate humiliation for a man in India and question his err…manhood….He is as good as called an impotent.That is the message sent by rural women.
Now if I take this logic of urban and rural,of how rural women do not wear panties let me say that urban women do not wear choodis atleast not the glass bangles…not as a part of everyday life….and yet we do not say ,neither do WE allow anyone to say that our rural sisters are doing anything wrong.We know that they are doing the best they can with what they have at hand.And so it is with us too.PLEASE DO NOT drive this wedge between urban and rural women.We are all women of INDIA .Period.We both fight our battles with the weapons at hand.WE fight so we can take a step forward and so that our sisters too can take a step forward.
I assure everyone that we are not cattle or brainless fools being swept along in this campaign.
WE have decided to try every trick in the book.
WE will have peaceful protests and dharnas and the very same women who are participating in the dharnas are also sending their pink undergarments to Muthalik.Hey!whatever works in this crazy country of ours!
So please excuse us.We have work to do.The intellectual debates can come later.:)
I love the support that we are being given,but please dont let the support be bound in conditions and restrictions.Please stand with us shoulder to shoulder throughout.
The generation gap is huge and there is a disconnect I know.But my father who is embarassed at anything to do with lingerie stands with me on this issue .Protests or Pink chaddies or pink anything, go get em,! he says:)
And that makes it so much more encouraging!
And for those of you who want to read of some Muthalik and Co rhymes ,all in pinkie pink ink,go HERE,IHM makes it all come together..:)
Usha has given a call for pink ink here…and Solilo is producing a pink crusader movie:D
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And in the end remember REAL MEN WEAR PINK! 😀
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